In my husband’s last year in the world of work he endured four challenging twelve hour days ~ five in peak periods leading up to Christmas. We made Wednesdays our day off and took up the challenge to walk The Fife Coastal Path between Queensferry and St Andrews ~ in stages.
It was a worthwhile effort which added to our fitness, our sense of well being and our feeling of togetherness. We are also now quite familiar with places to visit and have our favourite spots which we enjoy revisiting, time and time again.
Since my husband retired we lost this habit and life filled up with so many things, especially in the voluntary sector in our community, so that we had little time together and no time to follow our personal pursuits, which for me is writing. It came to a crisis last July when we booked a holiday in Crete. Most of the time it was too hot to go site-seeing and we are rarely sunbathers. This led to us spending many a precious mid-day couple of hours on our balcony, talking and taking stock of our first eighteen months in our new life in Fife.
We came to some serious conclusions. Firstly we needed to make more time for each other, but we also needed quality time for our own pursuits, which made us fulfilled people. Drastic and at times painful decisions were made as to what activities we should drop.
It took several months to settle, but now we are out the other side, both of us are far more content. My life feels complete again now that I can lose myself in my writing. We still give of our time to community life, but not to the detriment of either our married life or our enjoyment of life. A win win situation all round!